Celibacy Blues

Let me be the first to tell you, I am Jill Scott’s BIGGEST fan! No seriously, she is my sister in my head. There is not one song that she has sung that I have disliked.  If anyone knows of her album, The Real Thing: Words and Sounds Vol. 3, Jilly has a song on there called “Celibacy Blues”. She tells us how being celibate is really taking its toll on her. She speaks on how hard it is to go without sex. I’m not saying it’s easy but it can be done…

Can I just be candid for a second? I’ve decided to take the pledge and be celibate. There are several reasons why. It was something that has weighed on me for some time, even when I was in a long term relationship. I know what the Bible says about sex before marriage but to be honest I disregarded it because I simply wanted to. Later on, I realized that I would pay in a major way. Sex clouds your judgment and your emotions take over. Despite what the world says, the word says, “the heart is deceitful of all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” Jeremiah 17:9 We think we know what we are doing by sharing our most intimate self with someone other than our spouse but we really have no idea. Another reason I chose to be celibate is to weed out those who are truly interested in me. Want to find out if a man really digs you or not? Tell them you’re not interested in having sex until marriage! Tuh! Most of them will run for the hills. BUT best believe that are some who will stick around.

A lot of times women think that sex is going to make a man stay…IT WON’T!!!!!!! If he wants to leave…HE WILL…faster than you can say, “baby, please stay!” Do I have an incredibly handsome and caring boyfriend? Yup! Does he respect my decision to wait? He sure does! To be quite honest, I’m probably closest and most comfortable with him more than any other person I have had a relationship with. Weird, right? You would think someone seeing you physically naked would bring two people closer together. And I’m not saying it doesn’t. But being emotionally naked is even more intimate.

In such a sex-driven world, I want to let people know that it is totally fine to WAIT. If someone wants to be with you, they will…even if you’re not ready to give up the goods just yet.

As always, remember, YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made! Psalm 139:14