Being single has to be one of the most liberating feelings I have ever felt. Maybe it's because I can date whomever I choose whenever I choose. Maybe it's because I have recently gotten out of a 4 1/2 year relationship. Whatever the reason may be, I like this feeling. Here are a few tips that I have found useful being single in the city!
Be approachable. You know, smile every once and a while! Ask someone how they are doing. No one wants to become friends with a grouch! How are you ever supposed to meet anyone, friends or potential love, when you are mean mugging. You never know what that "small talk" may turn into.
Do things by yourself. I've been in Philadelphia for little over a year now. When I got here I didn't know many people. For at least two months, I was completely miserable because I would go to work and go straight home. I did nothing to make life exciting. I wanted to go and do things but I didn't have anyone to do them with! Then I remembered something my dad always told me. "Brandie, you came in this world by yourself, you are going to leave this world by yourself. You need to learn how to do things by yourself!" It was like a lightbulb had turned on in my head. Now, I will go to a concert, restaurant or movies by myself. I have met some pretty interesting people just being out and about alone.
Value the friendships that you already have. I consider myself to be a good friend. I take pride in that. Everyone does not possess that quality. Nurture the relationships that you have. Just think of them as practice for the man/woman God is preparing you for.
Be a part of something. Join a gym or take up cooking classes! Learn a second (or maybe third) language. This is a great way to meet people who are interested in the same things as you are. Not only will you meet people but you are making yourself more well rounded.
Being single is often mistaken for being alone. Know the difference. Being single is not having a significant other. Being alone is being in a solitude state of seclusion. Just think, this season won't last forever! Embrace your singleness and enjoy it!
Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made! Psalm 139:14